Celebration – Memorial Day

vintage-eagle-american-flag-graveMemorial Day will be celebrated this year on May 27, for most people in the United States that means a three day weekend and it is the unofficial start to summer.  Memorial Day is a holiday that is celebrated every year on the last Monday of May.  It is a day that Americans remember the brave men and women who died while serving in the United States military.  (Veterans Day is sometimes confused with Memorial Day, Memorial Day observes those who died while serving and Veterans Day celebrated the service of all U.S. military veterans either living or dead.

During the Civil War the vast numbers of dead soldiers, both Union and Confederate, meant that the burial and cemetery sites would greatly impact the country’s cultural rituals.  Women, wives and mothers, began a formal practice of decorating the graves with flowers to honor the dead soldiers.  Originally known as Decoration Day, this special day started after the end of the Civil War to commemorate the Union and Confederate soldiers who died.  After the Civil War there were several memorial events both in the North and South, numerous cities and states claim to be the first to start the annual tradition.

In the North, the organization of Union Civil War veterans, the Grand Army of the Republic, issued a proclamation that a Decoration Day should annually be observed nationwide.  In the South, the growing organization of the United Daughters of the Confederacy were very successful raising funds to build Confederate monuments and lobbying Congress for reburial of Confederate dead.  In 1865, the federal government began a program to creating national military cemeteries.  The two most famous national cemeteries are Arlington National Cemetery located across the Potomac from Washington, D.C. and Gettysburg National Cemetery located in Pennsylvania near the Civil War’s bloodiest and most famous battle.

Originally, May 30 was chosen as the date for a Decoration Day for the specific reason that there was no Civil War battle on that particular day and it would also be the optimal time for the most flowers to be in bloom.  Across the country, both in the North and South, cemeteries were decorated with flowers on the graves and speeches were made by veterans and politicians to honor and commemorate those who fought so bravely.

Gradually the name of the holiday changed from Decoration Day to Memorial Day but it was not declared the official name until a Federal law passed in 1967.  Then in 1968, Congress passed the Uniform Monday Holiday Act, which changed four different holidays from their traditional dated to a specified Monday in order to create a three-day weekend and by 1971 the federal law was in effect nationally.  Memorial Day was one changed from May 30 to the last Monday in May.  Currently, instead of flowers American flags are placed on the graves of the soldiers buried in our national military cemeteries and the day is meant to honor all the American soldiers who have died in both domestic and foreign wars.

Memorial Day trivia

  • On Memorial Day, traditionally in a solemn manner, the flag of the United Sates is raised quickly to the top of the flagpole and then slowly lowered to the half-staff position and remains there only until noon.  At noon, the flag is then raised to full-staff for the remainder of the day.  The symbolism is that the half-mast position is meant to remember the men and women who gave their lives in the service of our country and at noon the flag is raised as a way to remember that their lives and the sacrifices they made would not be in vain and we as Americans should remain steadfast in our constitutional right of liberty and justice for all.
  • One of the longest-standing traditions held on Memorial Day is the running of the Indianapolis 500 in Indianapolis, Indiana.  The auto race, which has been held since 1911, runs on the Sunday preceding the Memorial Day holiday.
  • Red Poppies are the official Memorial Day flower.  Inspired by the poem “In Flanders Felds”, in 1915 Moina Michael wrote her own poem in response.  It reads, “We cherish too, the Poppy Red that grows on fields where valor led, it seems to signal to the skies that blood of heroes never dies.”  She came up with the idea to wear red poppies on Memorial Day to honor those who died serving the nation during war.  She then sold red poppies with the money going to benefit the servicemen in need during World War II.
  • Since the late 1950s, on the Thursday before Memorial Day, over a thousand soldiers from the 3d U.S. Infantry place small American flags at each of the more than 260,000 graves at the Arlington National Cemetery near Washington, D.C. and continue to patrol the site for 24 hours each day during the three day weekend to ensure that each flag remains standing.

Celebration – Graduation Party

The end of the school year is coming soon and it is a great time for a graduation party if your child is moving forward from elementary school to middle school to high school or onto college.  The following tips and suggestions are specifically for a high school graduation party.

If you are a parent planning a graduation party for your child, be sure to sit down with them and find out what type of party they would like.  This is a very important step because you don’t want to plan an elaborate party when your child just wanted a small family gathering or vice-versa.  The graduate might want to help make some of the important decisions and could have some definite options on the details.

One of the first decisions is to determine the date of the party and always confirm the date of the actual graduation with the school.  (we had my daughter’s elementary school change the date of graduation a couple of weeks before the end of the school year)  Next, find out if there will be other parties for fellow graduated because it could be possible that there could be conflicting dates.  Another thing to consider and very important is if grandparents and other special family members will be able to attend the graduation party.  The next step is to decide on the number of guests and a list of names for invitations.

Budget is the next important decision, setting a firm budget will help to keep the costs within reason.  Expenses can quickly get out of hand, so be sure to have a plan and stick to the budget.  This is the time to determine if the party location will be at your home, restaurant or banquet hall.  The location costs can greatly affect the party’s budget so this is an important decision.

Party items to include in the party budget:

  • invitations, thank you cards and be sure to add postage costs
  • decorations – flowers, balloons, etc.
  • food and beverages – be sure to include if there are party rental supplies and service staff, caterer or restaurant costs)
  • entertainment expenses – DJ, video

The party theme is the next decision; this will determine the party colors and decorations.  An obvious choice for colors would be the graduate’s school colors.  Those colors can be used for the decorations, such as: flowers, balloons, streamers, table linens, etc.  In regards to a party theme, the graduate’s participation in sports and other school activities or perhaps the graduate is headed to college on a sport scholarship; these would make excellent themes for a graduation party.  Maybe you can use the college colors and mascot or maybe the future college student has a specific major; these ideas could possibly inspire a party theme.  Another great idea for a graduation party theme is a “look back” at the graduate’s childhood.  This theme could be used in decorations, such as: a special banner made from school pictures of the graduate from kindergarten to high school, a retrospective video or collage of photos made from important events since their birth to the present, etc.

Other items used for the graduation party would be some form of a guest “book”; this could be a traditional guest book or postcards for the guests to write personal messages and then compile them into a memory book for the graduate to enjoy or frame the graduate’s high school portrait for guests to sign the mat (this is the same idea popular at weddings) or if the graduate is going to college on a scholarship maybe consider the guests signing a football, basketball or baseball and bat.

Regarding the food and party menu, I would recommend doing an online search for ideas and suggestions.  My advice for a home party is to keep the food simple to prepare and easy to serve.  If this is your child’s graduation party, you will want to enjoy the day with them and I would suggest specifically for a home party, be sure to ask a trusted friend for help or consider hiring someone to help serve.  For a restaurant or banquet hall party, buffets are always less expensive than a sit down luncheon or dinner and can keep the party expenses down.

Tips and suggestions for a graduation party

  • Consider having special t-shirts made for the occasion or supply the graduates in attendance plain t-shirts for the each of them to sign with special messages.
  • Make a special time capsule for the graduate.  Invite each guest to bring something to the party that has to do with the current year or special items from past years that would be important to the graduate to remember in the future.
  • Consider hiring a videographer or use your own video camera on a tripod.  Set a specific area where guests can tape personal messages, maybe a funny memory or college or career advice.
  • Don’t schedule too many activities for the party, young adults like to just hang out together to talk or listen to music.

High School graduation gift ideas

  • Money!  Always a good idea and the amount is determined by how much you can afford, $20-25 is the average.  Maybe try this month’s craft project, Money Rose.  It would be a fun gift idea instead of a boring check!
  • Gift card from their favorite store; local retail store or bookstore
  • Luggage, a traditional list for future college students
  • Watches, buy something really special that will last a lifetime.
  • Jewelry, diamonds or pearls would be perfect or maybe a gift of heirloom jewelry piece such as a necklace, bracelet or ring.
  • Camera, add a camera bag, too
  • Laptop computer, Kindle, Nook, Tablet
  • Microwave or small refrigerator for their college dorm room
  • A laundry starter kit: a great laundry basket, detergent, fabric softener, stain remover, iron, small portable ironing board and a set of hangers
  • A t-shirt or sweatshirt from the graduate’s future college, most colleges have websites with an online store

Celebration – Victoria’s Day

1838 - Queen Victoria coronation portrait by George Hayter 1   1897 Queen Victoria in Diamond Julbilee photograph by W&D Downey

This year on May 20th Victoria’s Day will be celebrated in Canada.  It is a federal holiday and the day is observed on the last Monday before or on May 24, which was the actual birthday of Queen Victoria.  The day is also known in Canada as the “official” Sovereign’s Birthday for the current British monarch, which is Queen Elizabeth II.

Years ago, I read several books by Jean Plaidy, aka Victoria Holt, about the life of Queen Victoria of England and I became fascinated by her.  I enjoyed reading about her life from the time of her ascension to the British throne, to her marriage to Prince Albert and her sudden widowhood after his untimely death, to the birth of her nine children and her difficult relationship with her son who was destined to become the future King Edward VII, through to the time of her death at the beginning of the 20th century.  For this particular post I will concentrate on Queen Victoria’s personal life and leave the political information and details of her almost 64 year reign for the experts!

A not so brief history of Queen Victoria

Queen Victoria (Alexandrina Victoria born: May 24, 1819 died: January 22, 1901) was the monarch of the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Ireland; later in 1876 she received the additional title of the Empress of India.  Queen Victoria reigned from 1837 to 1901, which is longer than any other British monarch.  (Queen Elizabeth, the current British monarch will soon break that record)  The almost 64 years of her reign became known in history as the Victorian era.  This period brought great industrial, cultural, political and scientific changes within the United Kingdom and also was a time that marked by the great worldwide expansion of the British Empire.

Victoria was the daughter of Prince Edward, the Duke of Kent and the Duchess Victoria, formerly the German born Princess of Saxe-Coburg-Saalfeld.  Prince Edward was the fourth son of King George III and she became fifth in the line of succession.  Within a year after her birth both Prince Edward and King George III died in 1820, making her uncle King George IV.  When the Duke of York died in 1827 and King George IV died in 1930, her last surviving uncle became King William IV making Victoria the heir presumptive.

Victoria was raised at Kensington Palace in London under the close supervision of her extremely protective mother.  Victoria’s life was very lonely and she was isolated from other children and most of her time was governed by private lessons with tutors and very little free time spent with her dolls and her King Charles spaniel, Dash. Victoria was held under a constant watch by her governess, Baroness Louise Lehzen, and at night she shared a bedroom with her mother.  These rules and restrictions were devised by the Duchess and the ambitious Sir John Convoy and they became known as the Kensington System.  With this system, the Duchess and Sir Conroy were positioning themselves to take power as regents if an underage Victoria took the throne before turning 18 years old.  Luckily King William IV lived long enough so this was avoided thus ending the plans of the Duchess and Sir Conroy.   At this same time another person was trying to control the life of the young Victoria.  Her uncle on her mother’s side, King Leopold of Belgian, hoped that his niece would marry his nephew Prince Albert.  A meeting was arranged in 1836, but fate soon intervened and King Leopold’s marriage plans were postponed. (Victoria’s mother, Albert’s father, Ernest the Duke of Saxe-Coburg-Gotha, and King Leopold were siblings and this lineage made the future Queen Victoria and Prince Albert first cousins)

1838 - Queen Victoria coronation portrait by George Hayter 2

King William IV died in 1837, and a young Victoria became queen of Great Britain at the age of 18 years old.  Almost a year later, her elaborate coronation took place at Westminster Abbey on June 28, 1838.  The crown that was previously used by the former British kings weighed seven pounds, too large for the young Queen’s head.  A new crown was made that was smaller, weighed about 31/2 pounds, and was covered with over 2,100 precious stones such as diamonds, pearls, rubies, sapphires and emeralds.  To prepare for the coronation, the streets of London were festively decorated and soldiers on foot and horseback lined the streets.  On the morning of the coronation, the future Queen Victoria left Buckingham Palace in a Grand State Carriage pulled by eight cream-colored horses.  Westminster Abbey has been the site of every coronation since Edward I in 1274 and every monarch has been crowned sitting in the Chair of St. Edward. (For more information regarding the Coronation regalia, please click on the link Crown Jewels of England – Part One)

Queen Victoria and Prince Albert quickly became engaged after their second meeting in 1839.  They were married on February 10, 1840 in the Chapel Royal at St. James’s Palace in Windsor followed by a wedding breakfast held at Buckingham Palace and a honeymoon at Windsor Castle.  Prince Albert was dressed in a red British Field Marshal’s uniform and proudly wore the Order of the Garter Star on his chest.  Queen Victoria wore a white satin wedding gown trimmed with Honiton lace and orange blossoms.  Instead of wearing a jeweled royal tiara, Victoria choose to wear a wreath of more orange blossoms over a long Honiton lace veil.  At the time, orange blossoms were traditionally worn by brides as a symbol of fertility.  The clothes of a royal wedding tend to be very lavish, but a normal bride would simply have chosen to wear her “best dress”.  It has been said that Queen Victoria started the fashion tradition of wearing a white wedding dress.  (For more information about the wedding of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert, please click on the link British Royal Weddings – Part One and for more information about Queen Victoria’s wedding dress, please click on the link British Royal Wedding Dress – Part One)

1846 Family of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert portrait by

It took a little time after their marriage for Queen Victoria to trust Prince Albert with any government information but eventually he came to be her most trusted political adviser and a very dominant and influential person in her life.  The royal couple had nine children: Princess Royal Victoria in 1840, Prince Albert Edward (known as Bertie, the future King Edward VII) in 1841, Princess Alice in 1843, Prince Alfred in 1844, Princess Helena in 1846, Princess Louise in 1848, Prince Arthur in 1850, Prince Leopold in 1853 and Princess Beatrice in 1857.  Despite the fact that she had so many children, Queen Victoria greatly disliked being pregnant and thought newborn babies were ugly.  Queen Victoria and Prince Albert’s choose wisely and married their children into royal and noble families throughout Europe.  With her nine children, forty-two grandchildren and thirty-seven great grandchildren who are all related throughout the world’s royal families Queen Victoria has been called the “Grandmother of Europe”.

In 1861, Victoria’s mother, the Duchess of Kent died.  The two had been estranged since the time of Victoria’s ascension.  Her mother’s death greatly affected Victoria and she went into a great depression cause by her intense grief. Unable to function, Prince Albert took over most of her duties despite the fact that he was ill with chronic stomach pains. Then, when their son Bertie, the Prince of Wales, became involved in a scandalous relationship with an actress and Prince Albert traveled to Cambridge to confront his son.  Prince Albert had extremely high moral standards and felt his son’s behavior was unacceptable and advised Bertie to remember his royal responsibilities. When Prince Albert returned from his trip he became very ill and was diagnosed with typhoid fever and died shortly after on December 14, 1861.  Queen Victoria was devastated by the death of her beloved husband and felt that Prince Albert’s intense worry over Bertie’s scandalous behavior brought on her husband’s illness and hastened his death.

With the death of Prince Albert, Queen Victoria went into deep mourning and withdrew from her royal duties too distraught to function.  She immediately cancelled all the royal court calendar events and after a period of official mourning never worn anything but black clothing, her widow’s veil and a small diamond crown.  Because of the way she dressed after Prince Albert’s death, Queen Victoria was called the “Widow of Windsor”.  She left London and remained isolated in her other royal residences and divided her time between Windsor Castle, Osborne House and Balmoral Castle in Scotland.  It was at Balmoral Castle that Queen Victoria came to increasingly rely on her personal servant named John Brown.  There have been rumors of a romantic relationship between them and even a possible secret marriage.  Despite these scandalous rumors, John Brown has been credited for coxing Queen Victoria out of her deep mourning and severe depression, causing her to return to her royal duties and a public life.

Unfortunately, more sorrow and death came to Queen Victoria’s life.  In 1871, her son Bertie contracted typhoid, the same disease that killed Prince Albert.  Bertie made a full recovery and his estranged relationship with his mother greatly improved after he was so close to death.  Sadly, in the following years three of Queen Victoria’s children died.  In 1878 Princess Alice died of diphtheria, in 1884 Prince Leopold died from a cerebral hemorrhage and in 1900 Prince Alfred died of throat cancer. Then, in 1883, John Brown’s loyalty to Queen Victoria ultimately cost him his life when he ignored his own health concerns, refusing to take care of himself when he first became ill and instead stubbornly continued to attend to his duties as her servant, he died from pneumonia.

In the remaining years of Queen Victoria’s life and reign as monarch, she eventually returned to a public life after her self-imposed isolation and eventually regained her popularity with the English people as their beloved matriarchal Queen.  In 1887, she celebrated 50 years on the throne with a lavish Golden Jubilee that was celebrated throughout England.  Then, in 1896, Queen Victoria became the longest reigned monarch in British history and she requested that any special celebration be postponed to coincide with her Diamond Jubilee.

In 1900, Queen Victoria continued to observe her annual tradition of celebration of Christmas at Osborne House on the Isle of Wright.  Severe rheumatism in her legs had made her unable to walk and her eyesight was extremely poor due to cataracts.  By the start of the new year and the dawn of a new century, she had become increasingly weak.  Queen Victoria died on January 22, 1901 at the age of 81 years old.  Her funeral took place at St. George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle and she was interred beside her beloved Prince Albert in the Frogmore Mausoleum.

1882 Queen Victoria photograph by Alexander Bassano

Queen Victoria facts and trivia

  • When Victoria was still heir presumptive to the British crown and before she became queen, she was forbidden from walking up or down the stairs by herself without holding onto someone’s hand.  Her over-protective mother had a strict set of rules and was fearful that her daughter would be pushed or tripped down the stairs and killed to make way for another heir.  From birth, Victoria was forced to share a room with her controlling mother and, as a defiant act of independence, one of her first orders after becoming Queen was to have her bed removed from her mother’s room and into another bedroom far away in another part of the palace.
  • When Queen Victoria ascended to the British throne in 1837, it prohibited her from receiving a marriage proposal from a man.  Then in 1839, five days after their second meeting, Queen Victoria quickly fell in love with Prince Albert and wished to marry him but protocol prevented him from asking for her hand and she had to propose to him!
  • There is a legend that all British Royal brides carry a sprig of myrtle that was grown from Queen Victoria’s bridal bouquet.  The origin of the myrtle is false, although it is still a fact that British Royal brides do carry a sprig of myrtle in their bouquets on their wedding day.  The true story is that Prince Albert’s grandmother gave Queen Victoria a posy of myrtle when she visited Germany.  The Queen had the myrtle planted at her home, Osborne House, on the Isle of Wight.  The myrtle plant still grows there today and this is the source of the myrtle that is carried in the British Royal bridal bouquets.
  • Queen Victoria youngest son, Prince Leopold, was affected by the blood-clotting disease hemophilia and two of her daughters, Princesses Alice and Beatrice, were also carriers of this disease.  Several of Queen Victoria’s descendants including her great-grandson, Tsarevich Alexei of Russia, also suffered from this disease.  The presence of the disease in her descendants and not her ancestors led to speculation that the Duke of Kent was not Victoria’s true father since male carriers always suffer from this disease.  There is no documented evidence of a hemophilia connection thru her mother, the Duchess of Kent.  It is likely possible that the hemophilia gene mutated because the Duke of Kent was over 50 at the time of Victoria’s birth and hemophilia frequently accurses in the children of older fathers.
  • Queen Victoria publicly endorsed the 19th century cocaine-based drink Vin Mariani; this drink would later inspired Coca-Cola in the United States.  Vin Mariani was a medicine or tonic created in 1863 by a French chemist named Angelo Mariani.  Originally the drink was made from Bordeaux wine and coca leaves and contained 7.6 mg of cocaine per fluid ounce of wine.  Vin Mariani was very popular during this time and other notable people endorsed the drink.  Thomas Edison claimed that the drink helped him stay awake for long hours and Ulysses S. Grant began drinking it while writing his memoirs.
  • Queen Victoria keep a series of detailed journals throughout her long life writing on an average of 2500 words per day.  After her death, her daughter Princess Beatrice had the daunting task or transcribing and editing the 122 volumes that covered Queen Victoria’s life from the time of her ascension to her death.  Unfortunately, Queen Victoria’s personal and intimate history, private feelings and observations that were written by her own hand were lost when Princess Beatrice burned the original journals.
  • Several years prior to her death, Queen Victoria had written very specific instructions regarding her death and funeral.  Her son and successor, King Edward VII gently put her into her coffin and she was dressed in a white dress and her wedding veil.  Within the coffin were several mementos: on her right side was an article of Price Albert’s clothing and a plaster cast of his hand, on her left side were a lock of John Brown’s hair and a small photo of him wrapped in a handkerchief and place in her left hand and concealed by a carefully placed bouquet of flowers.

Celebration – Mother’s Day

mothers day lilacMother’s Day is coming up this month and (hopefully) sons and daughters around the country will be remembering their mothers.  Traditionally Mother’s Day is an annual holiday celebrated on the second Sunday in May.  This special day is meant to recognize mothers and acknowledge their contributions to our lives through their care and support of their families.

A Brief History of Mother’s Day

Back in 1868, there was committee establish by Ann Jarvis with the purpose to reunite families that had been divided by the Civil War.  Previously she had organized a “Mother’s Day Work Club” during the war to improve the sanitation and health conditions in both the Union and Confederate encampments at the time of a severe typhoid outbreak.  After the war, she continued her efforts to establish an annual memorial day to honor the service of these dedicated women who had work so hard for their sons during and after the Civil War.  There were only limited celebrations at a local level and unfortunately the idea never became popular at a national level during her lifetime and Jarvis died in 1905.

After her mother’s death, her daughter Anna Jarvis worked with a Philadelphia businessman named John Wanamaker to organize a small service at a local church in West Virginia where her mother taught Sunday school and this celebration honoring her mother took place in 1907.  In the following year, 1908, the first “official” Mother’s Day celebration was held again at the same local church in West Virginia while on the same day a much larger celebration was held at the Wanamaker store in Philadelphia.  Then, the next year there was an even larger celebration was held in New York City.

Jarvis worked to establish Mother’s Day as an official United States national holiday and in 1910 West Virginia was the first state to established it an official holiday.  In 1914, the U.S. Congress passed a law designating the second Sunday in May as Mother’s Day and President Woodrow Wilson issued a proclamation declaring the first national Mother’s Day as a day for American citizens to honor those mothers whose sons had died in the war.

Eventually the Mother’s Day holiday celebration became overly commercialized and the original meaning of the holiday was quickly lost.  In a strange twist, Anna Jarvis, the women who worked so hard to establish an annual Mother’s Day to honor her mother and the mothers of sons that died in the war, became a major opponent of the commercialization of the holiday.  She spoke out against the practice of purchasing greeting cards when people became “too lazy to write personal letters” to their mothers.  She was so strong in her opinion that she “wished she would have never started the day because it became so out of control” and she was even arrested in 1948 for disturbing the peace while protesting against the commercialization of Mother’s Day.

Mother’s Day is now one of the most commercially successful American holidays.  It has become the most popular day of the year to dine out at a restaurant and it generates a large portion of the U .S. jewelry industry’s annual revenue from custom gifts like the mother’s ring.  (I must admit that we bought my mother one of these rings with the birthstones of her for daughters)  Americans also spend approximately $68 million on greeting cards, $2.6 billion on flowers and over $1.53 billion on the recent idea giving gifts to pamper our mothers like spa treatments.

Mother’s Day Gift Ideas and Suggestions

Mother’s Day gifts are available in wide range of prices, from the very expensive and extravagant to the inexpensive, thoughtful and very personal hand crafted items.  Listed below are some great gift ideas for Mother’s Day:

  1. Breakfast in bed – this idea can be as extravagant as a catered meal to a special menu planned and cooked by the kids with the supervision of their father.  As an extra special touch consider serving the meal on custom hand-painted plate by the kids and purchased from the local pottery store.  (this idea needs to be planned in advance because there is usually a processing time to pick up a completed fire-kilned plate)
  2. Flowers – these can range from expensive florist shop flowers, to ones purchased at the local grocery store, to ones hand-picked from the garden, to tissue paper flowers made by the kids.
  3. Jewelry – the price range can be from an expensive necklace, bracelet or ring to inexpensive hand-beaded items made by the kids (macaroni necklaces can be charming idea but check out the jewelry aisle at the local craft store for something a mom could wear everyday)
  4. Gifts to pamper – ideas can range from a gift certificate to the local spa for a massage or facial to expensive perfumes, bath salts or lotions from the local upscale retail department store, to bath and beauty products from a store like Bath and Body Works.
  5. Family photographs – this can range from a formal/informal portrait by a local professional photograph either in a studio or at a special outdoor location or maybe some casual photos of the kids shot at home or in the backyard.  Remember to present the photographs in a beautiful frame either professional matted and framed at a studio or done with supplies from the local craft store.  Don’t forget that older photos also make great gifts, take a look at the family photo albums and I’m sure you would be able to find that perfect photo to copy and frame.  Look for old family photos of her parents and grandparents or maybe a photo taken of her with her baby on the day he/she was born.
  6. Clothing – When purchasing clothes it is a could idea to know sizes for purchasing a beautiful dress or lovely blouse, just try to decide on something a little more special than a pair of jeans or a t-shirt.  If you don’t know the size, consider a fabulous handbag.  If you can’t find anything she would like, think about a gift certificate to one of her favorite stores and with the card include a special note with an offer to babysit the kids while she is shopping!

Please check out this month’s Craft posts, Floral Purses and Childhood Handprints, for complete instructions and supply lists for two great craft project to create for Mother’s Day.

Mother’s Day Trivia

  • The Grafton Church in West Virginia, where the first “official” Mother’s Day celebration was held in honor of Ann Jarvis is now a National Historic Landmark.
  • In 1934, U.S. President Franklin D. Roosevelt approved a stamp commemorating the Mother’s Day annual holiday.
  • Carnations have long been associated with Mother’s Day when Anna Jarvis distributed 500 white carnations at the first “official” celebration in 1908.  The carnation was chosen because it was her mother’s favorite flower.  Since that time, many churches have adopted the custom of giving carnations at their Sunday services on Mother’s Day.
  • When there was a shortage of white carnations for Mother’s Day, the floral industry invented the idea of wearing a red carnation if your mother was living or a white one if she had passed away.  This idea was so heavily promoted by the florists that evenly became a very popular custom.

Celebration – Baby Showers

May is the month when Mother’s Day is celebrated and it seems like an appropriate time to talk about baby showers.  What a special time in a woman’s life when she is expecting a baby, especially if she is having her first child.  It is a perfect time for family and friends to gather to celebrate the upcoming birth and a wonderful way to gift the mom-to-be with a beautiful layette while enjoying some delicious food and good conversation.

The first thing to do when planning a baby shower is to decide on the date and location.  In regards to the date of the shower, be sure to pick a day close to the mother’s due date, but not too close.  Now, let me tell a funny story about my baby shower.  My friend was hosting my shower at her home and very early in morning on the day of the shower I went into labor, it was one month before my due date.  On the way to the hospital I called my friend to let her know what was happening and we talked about the possibility of cancelling the party but we decided it was too late; guests had come in from out of town, so she went ahead with the shower as originally planned.  Meanwhile, as the guests were arriving at my friend’s house, I’m in the hospital giving birth to my daughter.  To conclude the story, I wasn’t able to attend my own baby shower but I have some great photos of my friend opening up all the presents gather will my family and friends!

Once the date and location are decided, set a budget to keep the costs within reason.  Expenses can get quickly out of hand, so be sure to have a plan and stick to the budget.  The next step would be to pick a theme because that would suggest the type and style of the shower decorations.  Take a look online and search for baby shower themes, there are thousands to choose from.  Sometimes the parents-to-be will know the baby’s gender and this information can determine the colors to use for the party.    In regards to a specific theme, find out what the interests of the parents-to-be for inspiration. Maybe it is an interest in baseball, football or some other sports, maybe it is music or ballet, and maybe it is reading books or going to the movies.  As an example of a book theme, perhaps the parent-to-be loved a book when they were a child; that would be a great inspiration of a theme for a baby shower.  Alice in Wonderland, Wizard of Oz, Peter Rabbit, Winnie the Pooh, Tom Sawyer – any of these books would make wonderful themes.  Here are a couple of other suggestions: ask the guests to bring their favorite book to help build a home library for the new baby or maybe the cake can be in the shape of a stack of books.  So, the idea is to select a specific theme and use it to inspire the invitations, decorations, party favors and maybe even the cake.

Once the theme is decided, then it is time to think about the party decorations.  Decorations can be expensive, so consider keeping the cost to a minimum by creating them from simple supplies purchased from the local craft store.  Take a trip to the craft store and be inspired by the paper in the scrapbook aisle.  Scrapbook paper can be used for invitations, name tags, place cards, banners and all kinds of decorations for the party.  Do a search online for handmade baby shower decorations for great ideas.

Baby shower decorations can be created using some unusual baby items; take a look at the baby section of your local retail store,  For fun party favors, use small baby bottles filled either with colorful candy or soothing bath salts and be sure to tie a small thank you note to the bottle.  For name tags at the party here is a cute idea, set out a supply of cute diaper pins so guests can attach the tags to their clothing.  Check out this month’s Craft post, Baby Sock Corsage/Bouquet, for a cute idea using socks and other items of baby clothing, there are a list of supplies and simple instructions to make a special mom-to-be corsage and a very unique gift presentation.   Also there are ideas for using items of baby clothing to create baby shower decorations and party favors and even a unique “wearable guest book” as a signed t-shirt or onesie.

Shower decorations can come from items already owned.  Ask the parents-to-be if they have any childhood toys, these would make truly personal and unique items to use as decorations at the party.  Smaller items can be used on the buffet table and larger items can be placed around the room.  A precious heirloom to display would be a christening gown, special dress or outfit worn in their childhood.  Ask the parents-to-be for their baby pictures or photos from their childhood, these can be inexpensively framed and displayed on the buffet table or placed around the room.  Another great source for unusual one-of-a-kind items are antique stores.  Look for vintage toys that can be used as decorations or consider purchasing inexpensive mis-matched china and silverware for the buffet table.   A collection of vintage baby spoon, cups or rattles would look amazing hung on a small feather tree and displayed on a side table.

Consider creating a special gift for the mom-to-be, maybe a gift certificate to a wonderful spa for a massage and facial or a favorite beauty salon for a manicure or pedicure as a special way of pampering the new mother after the baby is born.      Another thoughtful gift is to purchase a beautiful photo album for all their baby’s photographs.  For the first page of the album, print the following words on special scrapbook paper.  “This special album is given with love today; a precious newborn will soon be on the way.  Create lots of memories and put the photos here to make each moment last; and soon your child will have a place to go to learn about their past.”

Don’t forget a gift for the father-to-be; he would appreciate being remembered during this time when the attention is on the mother-to-be and the new baby on the way.  Have the father-to-be arrive before the shower is over and present him with “A Daddy Emergency Kit”.  Use a container that can be closed, like a decorative box.  Then purchase the following items to put into the container and be sure to print and attach a humorous list of the contents.  Include the following:  a couple of disposable diapers, a small travel package of diaper wipes, a diaper cream or other ointment, a pair of disposable gloves and goggles for protection from flying objects, a face mask and clothespin for nose protection from unpleasant odors, tongs for soiled diaper removal and disposal, a baby washcloth, a couple of jars of baby food, a baby feeding spoon, a pacifier and a few small toys, and a couple of items for a change of clothing (t-shirt, onesie, socks)  These items are just some suggestions but be creative with the packaging and container contents.

Just remember the main purpose of a baby shower is to celebrate the upcoming birth with family and friends.  The other purpose is to provide the mother-to-be with the clothing and other items necessary for the baby’s first year.

Tips and suggestions for creating a great baby shower

  1. Start the planning process early, this will allow time to brainstorm creative ideas for a very memorable baby shower.  Talk to the mom-to-be and find out the baby’s due date and if the baby’s gender is known, this information will set the party’s date and can inspire a general theme.
  2. In regards to the baby shower theme, select a concept that reflects the parents-to-be interests or the baby’s gender.  Try to create a party that has a special and unique style and personalize the party decorations to fit the theme.
  3. Create a beautiful space for the party, set a wonderful environment for the guests.  Consider renting table, chairs, linens, china and glassware, these items can be within budget and will add the perfect touch to a very special event.
  4. If the party budget is small, check for items that you already own that can be used in creative ways to keep the cost down.  If you do need to purchase items for the party, be sure that they can be recycled for other uses later.
  5. During the party, be sure to keep the guest-of-honor and the invited guests comfortable.  Provide delicious food and beverages with a place to sit and engage in conversation.  Room temperature, bathroom facilities and food allergies are important issues to take under consideration.  Create some activities that will give the opportunity for the guests to mingle and get to know each other.
  6. Ask for help when planning the shower, family and friends can be a great source for ideas.  Use the computer as a wonderful resource, there are literally thousands of ideas for everything from the shower theme to decorations.  Don’t be timid on asking for help the day of the party, this is another time when extra people would be required to put up decorations, set out food, etc.