Celebration – Halloween

Vintage Halloween postcard

One of my favorite holidays growing up as a kid was Halloween; I loved dressing up in the costumes, treat or treating in our neighborhood in the San Fernando Valley and then bringing home a bag filled with candy!  Today, kids celebrate the holiday by going to spooky haunted houses, trick or treating at the local mall or going to a Halloween party.

Part of the fun of Halloween was selecting the perfect costume.  Back in the 1960s, the children’s costumes were often made by their mothers or sometimes they just purchased Halloween face masks from their local stores.  Luckily my mother was very good with her sewing machine and she made most of our costumes. When I was little girl, she made a clown costume and I wore it for Halloween in 1963.  She saved that costume and when my son was about 3 years old he wore for his first Halloween.  Many years later, my daughter wore it as her Halloween costume, too.  What a lovely family tradition!  That clown costume is now almost 50 years old and I will carefully pack it away and save it for my future grandchild to wear on their first Halloween!!

1980 October - Chris  2003 Halloween - Cassie

The History of Halloween

Halloween, sometimes known as All Hallows’ Eve, is celebrated on October 31st.  It is a festive time for trick or treating, carving pumpkins, attending costume parties and maybe bobbing for apples … but what is the origin of Halloween and the meaning behind some of those traditions and customs?

Some historians say that the origins of Halloween are based in the Roman feast of Pomona or in the festival of Parentalia or the Celtic festival of Samhain.  Samhain was an old Irish celebration held at the end of summer and it was on or about October 31 or November 1.  The festival marked the end of the harvest season and the beginning of preparing for the coming winter.  Centuries ago, the Samhain festival was believed to be a time when the souls of the dead came into our world and would visit the homes of their relatives, some people wore costumes to disguise themselves from the evil spirits.  The tradition of carving pumpkins may have come from the Samhain festival and the custom of carving turnip lanterns, these lanterns were used at night when the children would be lead door to door to collect food for the festival.  People would gather and light bonfires and play divination games as part of the festivities.

Halloween is also influenced by the Christian holy days of All Saint’s Day and All Soul’s Day when the custom is to pray for the saints and the recently departed who have not yet reached Heaven.  Originally the days were celebrated in May but in the year 835 Pope Gregory IV changed the dates to November 1 and 2.  The custom known as “souling” is the tradition of baking soul cakes to honor those in purgatory, then the soul cakes are collected by the children as they go door to door.  It is believed that the souls of the departed wander our world until All Hallows’ Eve, a date which is their one last chance to seek vengeance on their enemies and this is the reason the people wore costumes to disguise themselves.  In Britain, these customs were deemed unacceptable by the Protestants during the Reformation.  So when Guy Fawkes Night, celebrated on November 5, gained popularity those traditions were incorporated into that holiday.

It wasn’t until the late 18th and early 19th century that the Irish and Scottish immigrants brought their traditions and customs to the United States.  In the early 20th century, the holiday known as Halloween gained popularity and was celebrated nationwide regardless of people’s social, religious and racial backgrounds.

1963 Halloween - Barbara  1984 Prince Christopher of Langdon  2002 Halloween - Cassie

Halloween traditions and customs

  • The turnip lanterns were traditionally used in Ireland and Scotland for the Celtic festival of Samhain and the immigrants brought those traditions to the United States but substituted the turnip for the North American native pumpkin.  Eventually the American tradition of carving pumpkins became popular nationwide and pumpkins were grown commercially and specifically marketed for Halloween.
  • Turnip lanterns were hallowed out, carved with faces and light inside by a candle.  During the Celtic celebration of Samhain, people would set the lanterns out on their windowsills to confuse the evil spirits from entering their homes and haunting them.  For Catholic children, it was a tradition to carry jack-o-lanterns to honor the souls of the dead as they went door to door collecting the soul cakes during All Saint’s Day and All Soul’s Day.
  • Trick or treating is usually the highlight of a children’s Halloween.  Dressed in costumes, the “treat” when the children go from house to house is asking for candy and the “trick” refers to the mischief that would happen if there was no treat!  Trick or treating became popular nationwide in the United States during the 1930s.
  • In the late 1800s in Ireland and Scotland children went “guising”, the children would dress in costumes and carrying carved turnip lanterns as they would visit homes and receive cakes, fruit or money.
  • In Medieval times there was a practice known as “mumming”.  People would wear costumes and go to door to door offering prayers for the dead in exchange for treats such as “soul cakes”.
  • Halloween costumes were traditionally ghosts, skeletons, witches and devils.  In the United States, costumes became popular in the early 20th century and the first mass-produced costumes started selling in stores in the 1930s.  Today, Halloween costumes include popular characters from storybook and comic book heroes and villians, while other more adult costumes are based on movie and television characters or sometimes current celebrities and politicians.
  • In Scotland there was a custom known as “dooking” or apple bobbing.  Apples were floated in a large basin of water and people would traditionally use their teeth to remove the apples from the basin without using their arms or hands.
  • Since Halloween is celebrated during the fall harvest season there is an abundance of apples available and during October the grocery stores will sell candy apples or caramel apples.  (Caramel apples are one of my favorite fall treats, I like them with or without peanuts!)
  • Haunted houses are a favorite Halloween entertainment activity and there are a larger number of local and national venues that offer mild to extremely scary haunted houses.  Sometimes at the venues, they will offer corn mazes and hayrides out to the pumpkin patch and at the night there can be the possibility of encountering the Headless Horseman!
  • Telling ghost stories at Halloween parties and watching horror films on DVD in the weeks leading up to Halloween can be alot of fun.  Television series will have special Halloween themed episodes or the networks will show Halloween specials, like “It’s the Great Pumpkin Charlie Brown”.  (Watching the Peanuts special is one of our family’s holiday traditions.  We also like to watch the “Nightmare Before Christmas” every Halloween … for more information about the Tim Burton film, please check this month’s post, Nightmare Before Christmas the Movie)

Celebration – Grandparent’s Day

Grandparent’s Day is celebrated on the first Sunday in September and has been an official nationwide holiday in the United States since 1978.  As a result of the baby boomers, the number of grandparents is expected to rise from 65 million in 2011 to 80 million in 2020.  In recent years, grandparents have slowly become the choice of working parents that are in need of childcare.  Statistics from 2012 indicate that 30% of the children under five years old are cared for on a regular basis by a grandparent.

So, let’s take the time to remember and honor the grandparents in our lives who have brought so much unconditional love and support into our lives.  Through my experience over the years in celebrating Grandparent’s Day I have come to the wonderful conclusion that grandparents truly enjoy receiving homemade gifts from their grandchildren.  This is always a great idea because the kids get the pleasure of creating a truly personal gift for their grandparents and the grandparents are so happy to receive something special from their grandchildren, it’s a win-win situation!!

Any kind of craft project using a child’s handprint is a fun activity for the kids and the finished “artwork” is makes a wonderful gift idea for grandparents.  Here are a few craft ideas from previous blog posts: Childhood Handprints is a more traditional craft idea using your child’s handprints and a lovely poem and Zoo Animal Handprints is a fun creative way of using your child’s handprints and making them into zoo animals.  After the handprints are completed be sure to let the paint dry, then beautifully frame them to make a great Grandparent’s Day gift.

Child's handprintZoo hand print - monkey 1

Photos are also a great gift idea for Grandparent’s Day.  My husband takes amazing photos and every time we see the grandparents we always try to take those great three generation photos, on my husband’s paternal side he is very lucky to have four generations.  These types of photos are great to copy and send with Grandparent’s Day cards or enlarge the photos and frame them to make wonderful gifts.

A few years ago when my Mom came to visit shortly after we moved to the Midwest we were taking our traditional three generation photos and I thought, “let’s do something fun and different”, so we took a photo of our hands.  It made an interesting photo of the contrast of a grandmother, mother and child hands.  Of course, I made an enlarged copy of the photo and it was an unusual and great idea for a Grandparent’s Day gift.

Three generation hands

Listed below are some ideas and suggestions for Grandparent’s Day gifts –

  1. Create a handmade card instead of a store-bought one.
  2. When giving or sending a card, it is a great opportunity to include the grandchildren’s school photos.
  3. Beautifully frame a picture drawn by the kids.
  4. Create a collage of 10 -20 photos of your children with their grandparents.
  5. Using photos, create a personalized calendar, be sure to note family birthdays and anniversaries.
  6. Help the kids bake a special dessert treat, make sure to consider the grandparent’s dietary needs such as sugar free cookies or cakes.
  7. Cook dinner at their home, bring a bouquet of flowers and set a beautiful table, this is a great idea for grandparents that are home-bound and have mobility restrictions.
  8. Have the older children offer to do chores for the grandparents, such as: cleaning the house or yard work.
  9. Arrange to go over to their home for an afternoon or evening of playing cards or board games.
  10. For out of town grandparents, plan ahead to have a delivery of flowers or food items.
  11. Plan a private recital for the grandparents if your child has a special talent like dance, choir or playing a musical instrument.
  12. Finally, here is a wonderful and easy craft idea –
  • Trace the handprint of the child, parent and grandparent individually onto a piece of paper; be sure to use the same right or left hand for all three hands.
  • Cut out the traced hand prints.
  • Arrange the “hands” by stacking the grandparent’s first, then the parent’s and use the child’s hand on top since it should be the smallest one, or arrange them side-by-side from oldest to youngest person.
  • Once you are pleased with the arrangement glue them to another piece of paper.
  • Be sure to write the date on the bottom portion of the paper.  Next to each individual hand write the person’s name and age.

Celebration – A Royal Birth and Christening

Princess Victoria's chritening

Since the news that the royal couple, the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge, were expecting their first child was announced in December 2012, shortly followed by the Duchess’ hospitalization early in her pregnancy with hyperemesis gravidarum and then the seemingly endless wait for the child to be born, there had been much anticipation and worldwide attention for the joyous event.

Finally on July 22, 2013, Royal Highness Prince George of Cambridge, the first child of Prince William and the former Kate Middleton, was born and he will be third in line of succession to the British throne.  The royal baby will be the third great-grandchild of Queen Elizabeth II (her eldest grandson and Princess Anne’s son, Peter Philips has two daughters) and the first grandchild of Prince Charles.  The last time a serving monarch had a great-grandchild born in a direct line of succession to the throne was over 120 years ago, in 1894 when Queen Victoria was sovereign and the future Edward VIII was born.

Queen Victoria - four generations  Queen Elizabeth - four generations

Interesting Facts and Traditions of the Birth of a Royal

  • Royal Highness Prince George was born in the Lindo Wing of St. Mary’s Hospital in London, England.  It is the same hospital where 31 years earlier, Prince William was born to Prince Charles and the late Princess Diana.  This was not always the case of a heir to the British throne being born in a hospital, Prince Charles was born at Buckingham Palace and the Queen was born at the home belonging to her mother’s parents at 17 Burton Street in Mayfair, England.
  • Prior to 1948, the Home Secretary was required to attend the birth of a royal baby to ensure that the child born was a legitimate heir to the throne.  Since that time it was determined that there was no constitutional requirement needed for his presence. This number of birth witnesses is very small in comparison to the 42 witnesses that were present to verify the birth of the son of King James III in 1688 when the legitimacy of the pregnancy was called into question and the true heir to the British throne was in doubt.
  • An official public proclamation with information on the baby’s gender, time of birth and weight and it is signed by the royal doctors and this framed announcement is traditionally placed near the gates of Buckingham Palace after the Queen and the immediate families of the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge have been informed of the birth of the royal baby.  This old-fashioned custom is still observed even in the modern age of worldwide mass media coverage.  For the birth of Prince George an announcement was also made on the royal website.
  • Royal births are traditionally celebrated with gun salutes, 41 rounds fired in Green Park by the King’s Troop Royal Horse Artillery and 62 rounds fired at the Tower of London by the Honourable Artillery Company.  The British flag will also be flown from all of England’s government buildings, Royal Navy ships and military installations.
  • The names given to royal babies are not usually revealed to the public for several days.  When Prince William was born in 1982, the name was not made public and announced until seven days later.  When Prince Charles was born in 1948 it took even longer and it was a month before his name was revealed just prior to his christening.  Normally royal babies often have several forenames; the Duke of Cambridge was christened Prince William Arthur Philip Louis.  Royal babies with the title of Royal Highness (HRH) normally do not need surnames, but if one is used there are three possible choices: Mountbatten-Windsor, Wales or Cambridge.

After the royal birth, there is always the customary photo of the newborn baby with their royal parents on the steps just outside the hospital for the hundreds of worldwide press that is waiting.  Shown below are the photos in 2013 of Prince George with his parents the Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and in 1982 of Prince William with his parents, the Prince and Princess of Wales.

Left - Prince George  Right - Prince William

Details of a Royal Christening

  • Traditionally, royal christenings are generally private affairs usually held at Buckingham Palace in the Music Room.  For Prince George, his christening will take place at  the small chapel at St. Jame’s Palace on October 23, 2013.  The royal baby will be a three months old and the Archbishop of Canterbury will perform the ceremony.  Besides the royal baby and his parents, there will be a small group of family, close friends and the child’s godparents.  After the ceremony the group will sit for formal portraits that will be released to the media.  On the occasion of Prince William’s christening, it was the Queen Mother’s 82nd birthday.  Shown below are the christening photos from 1982 of Prince William, from 1948 of Prince Charles and from 1926 of Princess Elizabeth.
    Princess Elizabeth - christening  Prince Charles -  christening

    Prince William -  christening  Prince George's christening 2013
  • In 1840, Queen Victoria commissioned a special silver baptismal font when she was expecting her first child with husband, Prince Albert.  The font was made by Barnard & Co. and the symbol of the lily was used to represent purity and new life.  The christening ceremony of Princess Victoria took place in February 1841 in the Throne Room at Buckingham Palace.  According to a painting by C.R. Leslie, the font was placed on a circular table and the Archbishop of Canterbury used water from the River Jordon.  For the new royal baby, the same silver font and water from the River Jordan will be used for his christening in the chapel at St. Jame’s Palace.

Lily font

  • For the birth of her first child, Queen Victoria also commissioned a lovely christening “robe” made with Honiton lace and lined in white satin, it has a very long skirt with an elaborate collar and bow.  Since 1841 over 60 royal children have worn it for their christening including four Kings, King Edward VII, King George V, King Edward VIII and King George VI.  Queen Elizabeth II wore it for her christening, as well as all her children and every grandchild except one.  The last to wear it was Lady Louise Windsor, the daughter of the Earl and Countess of Wessex in 2004.  The original robe was very old and fragile by that time and to preserve the historical outfit an exact handmade replica was made by the Queen’s dresser, Angela Kelly.  Viscount Severn, the son of the Earl and Countess of Wessex, was the first to wear it at his christening in 2008.
  • Royal babies usually have five or six godparents, although Prince William had eight.  Possible godparents for William and Kate’s new son will more than likely include Prince Harry, Pippa and James Middleton.  In addition royal experts expect at least two more godparents which would have to be someone from William and Kate intimate circle of friends.
  • At the reception following the royal baby’s christening, it is traditional to serve the top tier of the parent’s wedding cake.  This is a tradition that Prince William wanted to keep and after their wedding in 2011 the cake was specially preserved in the freezer awaiting the birth of their first child.

For more information the Music Room in Buckingham Palace where several royal christenings have taken place throughout the centuries, please check out yesterday’s Travel Post, “Buckingham Palace“.

Royal Update: On May 2, 2015 Princess Charlotte of Cambridge, the second child of Prince William and the former Kate Middleton, was born in the Lindo Wing of St. Mary’s Hospital in London, England which was the same hospital where her brother, Prince George, was born in 2013.  Princess Charlotte’s christening will take place on July 5, 2015 in St. Mary Magdalene Church on the Sandringham Estate in Norfolk, England.  For more information on Sandringham, please click on the link.

Celebration – Independence Day

july-4th-american-flag

Fourth of July, also known as Independence Day, is a federal holiday which celebrates the United States declaring their independence from England.  This summer day is usually means fireworks and barbecues or a day for family picnics and a trip to see a baseball game.

Representatives from the thirteen colonies meet in Philadelphia, Pennsylvania during the American Revolution.  In June of 1776, the representative from Virginia, Richard Henry Lee, proposed that the Unites States declare their independence from Great Britain.  The Continental Congress voted to approve the resolution on July 2, 1776.  The representatives formed a committee of five members to prepare a Declaration of Independence.  The chief author of the document was Thomas Jefferson and over the next couple of days the Congress debated and revised the wording until finally approving it on July 4, 1776.  This is the day that Americans have come to celebrate.

Independence Day Trivia

  • As the Liberty Bell rang from Independence Hall, crowds gathered in Philadelphia as the Declaration Independence was read in public for the first time on July 8, 1776.
  • Only two men signed the original Declaration of Independence on July 4, 1776, they were John Hancock and Charles Thomson who was the Secretary of the Second Continental Congress.   A larger copy was made and this is the one that most of the delegates signed on August 2, 1776.  This second document is the one that is on display in the National Archives in Washington, D.C.
  • The first signer of the Declaration of Independence was John Hancock; he said he wrote his signature so large because he wanted the King of England to see it without his glasses.   The last signer was Thomas McKean who finally signed the document in January 1977; he later became governor of Pennsylvania.
  • The oldest signer of the Declaration of Independence was Benjamin Franklin who was 70 years old.  The youngest was Edward Rutledge who was 26 years old; he later became the governor of South Carolina.
  • In a remarkable coincidence, both John Adams and Thomas Jefferson died on the same day just five hours apart.  Jefferson died first, he was 82 years old and Adams was 90 years old.  The date was July 4, 1826 and it was the 50th anniversary of the Declaration of Independence.
  • Red, white and blue, the colors of the flag of the United States of American, have always been considered patriotic colors but originally the Fourth of July was celebrated with greenery for decorations.
  • The first years of our Nation’s Independence Day were celebrates with artillery canons from the American Revolution battles that were fired on the Fourth of July but eventually this practice was discontinued and slowly replaced by fireworks.

Celebration – Mother of the Bride & Groom

A family wedding is an exciting time not only for the bridal couple but for their family too, especially their parents.  Today’s brides tend to be older at the time of their wedding, will make most of the decisions with the groom, and together the bridal couple will pay for the majority of the wedding expenses.

Mother of the Bride

Traditionally, the mother of the bride will help the bride prepare for the wedding and this means that sometimes she will act as a hostess at the engagement party and wedding reception while at other times she will act as a wedding consultant when helping her daughter select the details for the wedding ceremony and reception.  The key is to enjoy this special time together and be supportive of the wonderful bride!

Duties of a Mother of the Bride

Before the Wedding:

  1. First and most importantly, be there to lovingly support and gently guide the bride when your opinion is asked or required.
  2. If the bride’s parents are paying for a large portion of the wedding, be sure to set a realistic budget.  This might be one of the most difficult things to do, but setting a limit from the start will hopefully prevent any miscommunications and potential arguments.
  3. With the bridal couple’s consent, contact the parents of the groom to arrange a quite introductory meeting and celebrate the upcoming happy event.
  4. Assist the bride with the wedding guest list.  Be sure to coordinate with the groom and his family.  Help the bride with any questions about family or friends and be prepared to make some compromises depending on the budget.
  5. Accompany the bride as she shops for her wedding dress and accessories.  Wait until the bride asks for your option, stop and take a moment to think, and then be honest and gentle with your response.  Be sure to support the bride on her final decision.
  6. Be available to assist the bridal couple with decisions about the ceremony and reception venues, along with choices for floral, decoration, entertainment, etc.  Remember that it is their celebration and should reflect their personalities while at the same time keep within the budget.  If you feel uncomfortable with some their choices, be honest and gently communicate your feelings.  Be willing to make compromises and to find a good solution to any problems.
  7. Coordinate with the maid/matron of honor on the bridal shower.  It is not considered proper etiquette for the mother of the bride to host, but it is acceptable to offer your home for the event.
  8. As early as possible, select your dress for the wedding.  Generally, it is preferred that the dress coordinates with the wedding’s overall color and style while complementing the bridesmaids and mother of the dresses.  Be sure to consult with the bride on your final decision.
  9. Be available to participate in the wedding rehearsal and attend the dinner that usually follows.

On the Wedding Day:

  1. The most important thing to do on your daughter’s wedding day is to be there to lovingly support and gently guide the bride if she needs assistance or is a bundle of nerves!
  2. Overall, the duties of the mother of the bride and will depend on the style and choice of venue for the ceremony and reception.  Be sure to discuss the schedule with the bridal couple to ensure that their special day is free of any problems.
  3. Assist the bride as she dresses before the ceremony.  Take the time to have a private moment with your daughter before the ceremony starts to tell her how proud you are of her.
  4. Before the ceremony would be a great time to present her with a special gift, perhaps it is something old, new or blue – please check out this month’s Celebration post “Something old, new…” for ideas and suggestions regarding this wonderful tradition.
  5. Be sure to greet and welcome all the guests with a smile.  Introduce yourself and your husband to guests such as the relatives of the groom or friends of the bridal couple that you have not previously meet.
  6. If you are seated at the parent’s table during the reception, take the time to circulate around the room and be sure to thank family and friends for attending the wedding.
  7. Be available for the traditional dance with the father of the bride and the groom.
  8. Take the time during the day to tell your daughter how proud you are for her, how beautiful she looks and how happy you are for her and her new husband!
  9. Most importantly, take the time to enjoy the day!  Be assured that as a parent, you have raised a wonderful daughter with good values and you deserve to celebrate!!

Mother of the Groom

In the past, Mother of the Groom was very limited but now her role and responsibilities have greatly expanded.

Duties of a Mother of the Bride

  1. First and most importantly, be there to lovingly support the groom through the most important event of his life and be available when your opinion is asked or required.
  2. After the bridal couple engagement is announced, it is customary for the parents of the groom to meet the bride’s parents before the wedding.  If it hasn’t been previously arranged, consider hosting a luncheon or dinner to introduce the groom’s immediate family to the bride’s family.
  3. When asked, provide the bride with a list of guests to invite from the groom’s side of the family.  Please sure to check for the allotted number of guests the groom is able to invite.  As the wedding date approaches, offer to call invited guests on the groom’s side that have not responded.
  4. Traditionally, the groom’s family pays for the engagement and wedding rings, the rehearsal dinner, the groom’s tuxedo, the bride’s bouquet and the boutonnieres for the groomsmen and transportation for the wedding ceremony and reception.  However, these are only suggestions.
  5. Attend any bridal shower you are invited to and offer your services to help if necessary.  Think about bring a sentimental gift, maybe a photo album of baby pictures of the groom.
  6. Help the out of town guests on the groom’s side of the family with hotel reservation, have a list of hotels located within in the area of the ceremony and reception.
  7. Shop early for your mother of the groom dress, coordinate style and colors with the mother of the bride.  When shopping, ask the bride to come to provide her advice and opinion – think of it as a bonding experience with just the two of you!
  8. If asked by the bridal couple, provide some song recommendations for the mother/son dance at the reception.
  9. The night before the wedding and after the rehearsal, the groom’s parents usually host a rehearsal dinner at a nearby venue.

Gift suggestions for the parents of the bridal couple

To show the parents of the bride and groom that there support during the planning stages of the wedding are appreciated, it is a very thoughtful gesture to give each set of parents a thank you gift.  Listed below are some suggestions:

  1. Wedding Album – A selection of the wedding portraits will make a treasured and sentimental gift.
  2. Spa or resort reservations – after the stressful and hectic process of planning a wedding it would be a lovely idea to send the parents of the bridal couple to a favorite spa or resort for some much needed relaxation.
  3. Dinner reservations to a favorite restaurant – the bridal couple’s parents would appreciate a wonderful meal at a wonderful restaurant.