Celebration – A Special Bridal Rose Pesentation

bridal rose ceremony

There is a Southern tradition regarding a bible and rose ceremony that I saw several years ago in Southern Lady magazine.  Inspired by that article, I thought this idea was a wonderful way to honor the bridal couple and to add special meaning to their upcoming wedding.  I took the idea of the rose presentation and rewrote the script to express hopes and wishes for a long and joyful marriage.

This bridal rose presentation can be performed at an engagement party, bridal shower, bridesmaid luncheon, rehearsal dinner or even the wedding ceremony or reception.  Any of those events would be a very wonderful time when the bride (bridal couple) has family and friends gathered together to celebrate the marriage.

Bridal Rose Presentation instructions

  1. When planning the bridal rose presentation, select 8 or 9 family members or close friends to participate.  Invite the various speakers to participate and let them know what will happen and what they have to say during their section of the presentation.
  2. For the Bridal Rose Presentation, I would recommend using long stem fresh or artificial roses.  Create a tag with the wording for each rose presentation and attach the tag to the rose with a ribbon.
  3. Special Note:  The silver bouquet holder is sometimes hard to locate in bridal stores but look online for other sources.  If you cannot find one just omit this section of the presentation.  A bible is used in the traditional Southern custom and this could be added to the end of the presentation.  If you are using a special family bible or perhaps a childhood bible of the bride or groom, please include this information in the presentation to add a wonderful personal touch.
  4. Then, on the day of the event and at an appropriate time during the celebration, gather the participants/speakers and distribute their roses, greenery or ribbon that they will be presenting to the bridal couple.
  5. Next, gather the bride (bridal couple) and the guests and announce that there will be a special rose presentation.
  6. Follow the Bridal Rose Presentation below.  As each participant/speaker is finished reading their section, they will present the rose to the bride (bridal couple).

The Bridal Rose Presentation

Introduction –

As we gather today (tonight) as a group of family and close friends, we will be making a presentation to the bride (bridal couple) of a special bouquet that will represent our wishes and hopes.  In sharing this tradition and explaining the meaning of each rose, we hope you will understand the significance of marriage and the values needed as you start your journey through life together.

Over the past centuries and dating back to the popular Victorian era custom, bouquets or nosegays played a significant part in the courtship of a couple.  To express his love a serious suitor would present his special lady a bouquet of flowers to show his true feelings.  In the language of flowers, each flower in the bouquet had a different and special meaning that was an unspoken message to his beloved.  Today (tonight) we, your family and friends, will present the bride (bridal couple) one of these unique bouquets.

The Pink Rose –

The pink rose represents true love which is the foundation of a strong home.  In becoming engaged you have made an important decision.  As you build a married life together, our wish is that your love for one another will continue to grow stronger through the joys and sorrows of the coming years.  (Present the pink rose)

The Red Rose –

The red rose represents the passion that comes from your love for one another.  As this red rose is given to you it is our wish to remind you that you have each other to turn to for love and guidance throughout your journey in life.  (Present the red rose)

The White Rose –

The white rose represents purity which is important in your lives together so that you are free from false expectations and selfish ambitions.  This white rose is given as a wish for purity of your heart and soul.  (Present white rose)

The Yellow Rose –

The yellow rose represents sincerity which is an important quality to have.  The most successful marriages are when you have compassion and respect for one another.  This yellow rose is given to remind you of the vows you have made to each other and the sincere love you share.  (Present the yellow rose)

The Red and White Rose –

The red and white roses together represent unity.  In a marriage, there will be frustrations and misunderstandings through the years but love each other with your mind, body and spirit.  These red and white roses are given together to remind you are not alone as you move forward in your life together.  (Present the red and white roses)

The Greenery –

The green foliage represents beauty and growth.  As this greenery is given to you, our hope is that as time passes you will continue to grow in your love for one another and our wish is for an abundance of grace in your marriage.  (Present greenery)

The Ribbon –

The ribbon we give you now is to bind your bouquet together, much as your love will bring you together through your marriage.  (Present ribbon to be tied)

The Bouquet Holder – (optional)

As in the centuries long ago, the precious flowers received from a suitor were carried by his lady in a bouquet holder often made of silver.  A chain was attached to the holder and slipped over the lady’s fingers and then a pin was inserted to safeguard the precious bouquet. As this bouquet holder is given to you, remember to hold tight to your love and devotion to one another.  (Present the silver bouquet holder)

Conclusion –

The bouquet you now hold represents all our wishes for a successful marriage. We hope you have an abundance of love, a passion for life, a purity and sincerity of heart, and with devotion to each other you will both grow in the happiness of the coming years.

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Celebration – Planning a Bridal Shower

Celebrating a bride and her upcoming wedding is a perfect opportunity to plan a party.  Generally, the maid or matron of honor will host a bridal shower.  Sometimes a family member will wish to honor the bride with a family bridal shower for the bride and groom’s family members.  If a co-worker who is especially close to bride, they might want to host an office bridal shower at the bride’s workplace and invite her co-workers.  If a bridal couple has a special group of friends that they socialize with on weekends, maybe a couple shower would be a great way to include the groom-to-be and have him join in on the fun.  Coordinate with the bride and her mother to see if anyone else is hosting other showers to avoid problems with conflicting dates.

The first step to planning a bridal shower is sit down with the bride and find out what type of party she would like.  This is a very important step because you don’t want to plan an elaborate party when she just wanted a small gathering or vice-versa.  She might want to help make some of the important decisions and could have some definite opinions on the details.

One of the first decisions is to determine the date of the party and always check to confirm that there are no problems with conflicting dates.  Normally the bridal shower is held a month or two before the wedding.  After the date is set, the next step is to decide on the number of guests and check with the bride for a list of names and addresses for the invitations.  A general rule of etiquette is do not invite guests to the bridal shower that are not invited to the wedding, this could possibly create and awkward situation for the bridal couple.  The one exception to this rule is an office bridal shower which usually is scheduled during office hours; this would be a great way to include friends that would not be invited to the wedding which is located out of state.  Another etiquette note is that the bridesmaids are not required to attend multiple showers but they are expected to attend at least one.

In regards to invitations, there are numerous styles and price ranges that are available from a variety of stores or online at various websites.  Another option is to create the invitations with a home and a scrapbook store is a great source for paper and other supplies.  When purchasing the invitations, keep in mind the theme of the bridal shower because this could determine the style of the invitation.  When sending out the invitation it is acceptable to add the bridal couple registry information but the important thing to remember is to send out the invitations early, at least 4-6 weeks before the shower date.

Budget is another important decision and setting a firm budget will help to keep the costs with reasonable amount.  Expenses can quickly get out of hand, so be sure to have a plan and stick to the budget.  This is the time to determine if the party location will be at your home, restaurant or another venue.  The location costs can greatly affect the party’s budget so this is an important decision.  Party items to include in the party budget: invitations, thank you cards (be sure to add postage costs), party decorations including flowers, food and beverages (be sure to include if there are party rental supplies and service staff, caterer or restaurant costs) If you are the host of the shower, it is acceptable to ask for assistance and if you are co-hosting with the other bridesmaids or family members it is also sensible to ask for sharing the expenses involved with the bridal shower.

The party theme is the next decision and this can be the fun part of planning a bridal shower.  A theme should reflect the bride’s personality, her style or color preferences or maybe a favorite activity.  Some ideas and suggestions are listed below:

Tea party – This is always a popular choice for a bridal shower, it can be held in a private home or at a local restaurant and is usually a more formal event.  Small sandwiches and pastries can be served on cake stands or silver platters and of course several pots of different kinds of tea.  Ask the guests to wear their best dress and even a beautiful hat!

Kitchen shower – This is a wonderful way to stock the bridal couple’s kitchen with pots, pans, mixers, crockpots, toaster, etc.  This can be a good opportunity to refer the guests to the bridal couple’s registry.  Guests can also be asked to bring their favorite or perhaps a family favorite recipe.

Linen shower –  This is another way to stock the bridal couple’s home with luxurious sheets and monogrammed pillowcases and fluffy pillow for the bedroom or bath towels, bathrobes and lovely soaps and lotions.  Be sure to check with the bride for her color preferences and include their bridal registry information with the invitations.

Travel shower – This is a great theme for a bridal couple that are about to embark on an exotic honeymoon or maybe they are world travelers for business or pleasure.  Gift suggestions can include luggage, camera equipment, guidebooks, etc.

Lingerie shower – This is a fun shower idea but it can get a little embarrassing for the bride.  Gifts suggestions can include beautiful or sexy lingerie, such as silk nightgowns and bathrobes.   Risqué items are best left to a bachelorette party, we don’t want shock grandma!

Destination shower – This is a great opportunity to travel to a nearby city and it could be a great weekend to bond with close girlfriends.  Suggested destinations could be a fun beach house, a ski trip to the local lodge, a small cabin by the lake, or a luxurious hotel.  A calming weekend at the spa is another suggestion for the bride and her close friends to get pampered with massages, facial, manicures and pedicures.

 Bridal Shower tips and suggestions

  1. Shower invitation idea – Use one of the bridal couple’s engagement photos,   attach to the front of the invitation and print the shower information such as date, time, location, etc. on the inside of the invitation.
  2. Shower game idea – Before the date of the shower, videotape the groom being asked a series of fun questions, then during the shower hand out the list of the questions for the guests to fill in their possible answers.  Play the video of the groom being asked the questions but pause the tape before his answers, ask the bride her answer to the question and then continue the video to find out the groom’s answer.  (this game is like a version of the old television game show of the Newlywed Game but everybody gets involved!)
  3. Shower gift idea – This idea will take a little extra work, but it is worth it in the end!  Ask each guest to bring a photo of themselves with the bride or groom; the photos can be old or new, funny or sentimental.  Set out strips of paper for the guests to write funny captions of sayings, place the photos into an album with the captions, and then pass the album around for the bride and her guests to enjoy at the shower.
  4. Preparing for the thank you notes – When the bride is opening her shower gifts, designate someone to sit beside her to write down the gift and the gift giver’s name so that proper thank you notes can be written after the shower.  This is also a good opportunity for the tradition of creating the rehearsal bouquet with the ribbon and trim from the shower gifts.

Celebration – Memorial Day

vintage-eagle-american-flag-graveMemorial Day will be celebrated this year on May 27, for most people in the United States that means a three day weekend and it is the unofficial start to summer.  Memorial Day is a holiday that is celebrated every year on the last Monday of May.  It is a day that Americans remember the brave men and women who died while serving in the United States military.  (Veterans Day is sometimes confused with Memorial Day, Memorial Day observes those who died while serving and Veterans Day celebrated the service of all U.S. military veterans either living or dead.

During the Civil War the vast numbers of dead soldiers, both Union and Confederate, meant that the burial and cemetery sites would greatly impact the country’s cultural rituals.  Women, wives and mothers, began a formal practice of decorating the graves with flowers to honor the dead soldiers.  Originally known as Decoration Day, this special day started after the end of the Civil War to commemorate the Union and Confederate soldiers who died.  After the Civil War there were several memorial events both in the North and South, numerous cities and states claim to be the first to start the annual tradition.

In the North, the organization of Union Civil War veterans, the Grand Army of the Republic, issued a proclamation that a Decoration Day should annually be observed nationwide.  In the South, the growing organization of the United Daughters of the Confederacy were very successful raising funds to build Confederate monuments and lobbying Congress for reburial of Confederate dead.  In 1865, the federal government began a program to creating national military cemeteries.  The two most famous national cemeteries are Arlington National Cemetery located across the Potomac from Washington, D.C. and Gettysburg National Cemetery located in Pennsylvania near the Civil War’s bloodiest and most famous battle.

Originally, May 30 was chosen as the date for a Decoration Day for the specific reason that there was no Civil War battle on that particular day and it would also be the optimal time for the most flowers to be in bloom.  Across the country, both in the North and South, cemeteries were decorated with flowers on the graves and speeches were made by veterans and politicians to honor and commemorate those who fought so bravely.

Gradually the name of the holiday changed from Decoration Day to Memorial Day but it was not declared the official name until a Federal law passed in 1967.  Then in 1968, Congress passed the Uniform Monday Holiday Act, which changed four different holidays from their traditional dated to a specified Monday in order to create a three-day weekend and by 1971 the federal law was in effect nationally.  Memorial Day was one changed from May 30 to the last Monday in May.  Currently, instead of flowers American flags are placed on the graves of the soldiers buried in our national military cemeteries and the day is meant to honor all the American soldiers who have died in both domestic and foreign wars.

Memorial Day trivia

  • On Memorial Day, traditionally in a solemn manner, the flag of the United Sates is raised quickly to the top of the flagpole and then slowly lowered to the half-staff position and remains there only until noon.  At noon, the flag is then raised to full-staff for the remainder of the day.  The symbolism is that the half-mast position is meant to remember the men and women who gave their lives in the service of our country and at noon the flag is raised as a way to remember that their lives and the sacrifices they made would not be in vain and we as Americans should remain steadfast in our constitutional right of liberty and justice for all.
  • One of the longest-standing traditions held on Memorial Day is the running of the Indianapolis 500 in Indianapolis, Indiana.  The auto race, which has been held since 1911, runs on the Sunday preceding the Memorial Day holiday.
  • Red Poppies are the official Memorial Day flower.  Inspired by the poem “In Flanders Felds”, in 1915 Moina Michael wrote her own poem in response.  It reads, “We cherish too, the Poppy Red that grows on fields where valor led, it seems to signal to the skies that blood of heroes never dies.”  She came up with the idea to wear red poppies on Memorial Day to honor those who died serving the nation during war.  She then sold red poppies with the money going to benefit the servicemen in need during World War II.
  • Since the late 1950s, on the Thursday before Memorial Day, over a thousand soldiers from the 3d U.S. Infantry place small American flags at each of the more than 260,000 graves at the Arlington National Cemetery near Washington, D.C. and continue to patrol the site for 24 hours each day during the three day weekend to ensure that each flag remains standing.

Celebration – Graduation Party

The end of the school year is coming soon and it is a great time for a graduation party if your child is moving forward from elementary school to middle school to high school or onto college.  The following tips and suggestions are specifically for a high school graduation party.

If you are a parent planning a graduation party for your child, be sure to sit down with them and find out what type of party they would like.  This is a very important step because you don’t want to plan an elaborate party when your child just wanted a small family gathering or vice-versa.  The graduate might want to help make some of the important decisions and could have some definite options on the details.

One of the first decisions is to determine the date of the party and always confirm the date of the actual graduation with the school.  (we had my daughter’s elementary school change the date of graduation a couple of weeks before the end of the school year)  Next, find out if there will be other parties for fellow graduated because it could be possible that there could be conflicting dates.  Another thing to consider and very important is if grandparents and other special family members will be able to attend the graduation party.  The next step is to decide on the number of guests and a list of names for invitations.

Budget is the next important decision, setting a firm budget will help to keep the costs within reason.  Expenses can quickly get out of hand, so be sure to have a plan and stick to the budget.  This is the time to determine if the party location will be at your home, restaurant or banquet hall.  The location costs can greatly affect the party’s budget so this is an important decision.

Party items to include in the party budget:

  • invitations, thank you cards and be sure to add postage costs
  • decorations – flowers, balloons, etc.
  • food and beverages – be sure to include if there are party rental supplies and service staff, caterer or restaurant costs)
  • entertainment expenses – DJ, video

The party theme is the next decision; this will determine the party colors and decorations.  An obvious choice for colors would be the graduate’s school colors.  Those colors can be used for the decorations, such as: flowers, balloons, streamers, table linens, etc.  In regards to a party theme, the graduate’s participation in sports and other school activities or perhaps the graduate is headed to college on a sport scholarship; these would make excellent themes for a graduation party.  Maybe you can use the college colors and mascot or maybe the future college student has a specific major; these ideas could possibly inspire a party theme.  Another great idea for a graduation party theme is a “look back” at the graduate’s childhood.  This theme could be used in decorations, such as: a special banner made from school pictures of the graduate from kindergarten to high school, a retrospective video or collage of photos made from important events since their birth to the present, etc.

Other items used for the graduation party would be some form of a guest “book”; this could be a traditional guest book or postcards for the guests to write personal messages and then compile them into a memory book for the graduate to enjoy or frame the graduate’s high school portrait for guests to sign the mat (this is the same idea popular at weddings) or if the graduate is going to college on a scholarship maybe consider the guests signing a football, basketball or baseball and bat.

Regarding the food and party menu, I would recommend doing an online search for ideas and suggestions.  My advice for a home party is to keep the food simple to prepare and easy to serve.  If this is your child’s graduation party, you will want to enjoy the day with them and I would suggest specifically for a home party, be sure to ask a trusted friend for help or consider hiring someone to help serve.  For a restaurant or banquet hall party, buffets are always less expensive than a sit down luncheon or dinner and can keep the party expenses down.

Tips and suggestions for a graduation party

  • Consider having special t-shirts made for the occasion or supply the graduates in attendance plain t-shirts for the each of them to sign with special messages.
  • Make a special time capsule for the graduate.  Invite each guest to bring something to the party that has to do with the current year or special items from past years that would be important to the graduate to remember in the future.
  • Consider hiring a videographer or use your own video camera on a tripod.  Set a specific area where guests can tape personal messages, maybe a funny memory or college or career advice.
  • Don’t schedule too many activities for the party, young adults like to just hang out together to talk or listen to music.

High School graduation gift ideas

  • Money!  Always a good idea and the amount is determined by how much you can afford, $20-25 is the average.  Maybe try this month’s craft project, Money Rose.  It would be a fun gift idea instead of a boring check!
  • Gift card from their favorite store; local retail store or bookstore
  • Luggage, a traditional list for future college students
  • Watches, buy something really special that will last a lifetime.
  • Jewelry, diamonds or pearls would be perfect or maybe a gift of heirloom jewelry piece such as a necklace, bracelet or ring.
  • Camera, add a camera bag, too
  • Laptop computer, Kindle, Nook, Tablet
  • Microwave or small refrigerator for their college dorm room
  • A laundry starter kit: a great laundry basket, detergent, fabric softener, stain remover, iron, small portable ironing board and a set of hangers
  • A t-shirt or sweatshirt from the graduate’s future college, most colleges have websites with an online store

Celebration – Victoria’s Day

1838 - Queen Victoria coronation portrait by George Hayter 1   1897 Queen Victoria in Diamond Julbilee photograph by W&D Downey

This year on May 20th Victoria’s Day will be celebrated in Canada.  It is a federal holiday and the day is observed on the last Monday before or on May 24, which was the actual birthday of Queen Victoria.  The day is also known in Canada as the “official” Sovereign’s Birthday for the current British monarch, which is Queen Elizabeth II.

Years ago, I read several books by Jean Plaidy, aka Victoria Holt, about the life of Queen Victoria of England and I became fascinated by her.  I enjoyed reading about her life from the time of her ascension to the British throne, to her marriage to Prince Albert and her sudden widowhood after his untimely death, to the birth of her nine children and her difficult relationship with her son who was destined to become the future King Edward VII, through to the time of her death at the beginning of the 20th century.  For this particular post I will concentrate on Queen Victoria’s personal life and leave the political information and details of her almost 64 year reign for the experts!

A not so brief history of Queen Victoria

Queen Victoria (Alexandrina Victoria born: May 24, 1819 died: January 22, 1901) was the monarch of the United Kingdom of Great Britain and Ireland; later in 1876 she received the additional title of the Empress of India.  Queen Victoria reigned from 1837 to 1901, which is longer than any other British monarch.  (Queen Elizabeth, the current British monarch will soon break that record)  The almost 64 years of her reign became known in history as the Victorian era.  This period brought great industrial, cultural, political and scientific changes within the United Kingdom and also was a time that marked by the great worldwide expansion of the British Empire.

Victoria was the daughter of Prince Edward, the Duke of Kent and the Duchess Victoria, formerly the German born Princess of Saxe-Coburg-Saalfeld.  Prince Edward was the fourth son of King George III and she became fifth in the line of succession.  Within a year after her birth both Prince Edward and King George III died in 1820, making her uncle King George IV.  When the Duke of York died in 1827 and King George IV died in 1930, her last surviving uncle became King William IV making Victoria the heir presumptive.

Victoria was raised at Kensington Palace in London under the close supervision of her extremely protective mother.  Victoria’s life was very lonely and she was isolated from other children and most of her time was governed by private lessons with tutors and very little free time spent with her dolls and her King Charles spaniel, Dash. Victoria was held under a constant watch by her governess, Baroness Louise Lehzen, and at night she shared a bedroom with her mother.  These rules and restrictions were devised by the Duchess and the ambitious Sir John Convoy and they became known as the Kensington System.  With this system, the Duchess and Sir Conroy were positioning themselves to take power as regents if an underage Victoria took the throne before turning 18 years old.  Luckily King William IV lived long enough so this was avoided thus ending the plans of the Duchess and Sir Conroy.   At this same time another person was trying to control the life of the young Victoria.  Her uncle on her mother’s side, King Leopold of Belgian, hoped that his niece would marry his nephew Prince Albert.  A meeting was arranged in 1836, but fate soon intervened and King Leopold’s marriage plans were postponed. (Victoria’s mother, Albert’s father, Ernest the Duke of Saxe-Coburg-Gotha, and King Leopold were siblings and this lineage made the future Queen Victoria and Prince Albert first cousins)

1838 - Queen Victoria coronation portrait by George Hayter 2

King William IV died in 1837, and a young Victoria became queen of Great Britain at the age of 18 years old.  Almost a year later, her elaborate coronation took place at Westminster Abbey on June 28, 1838.  The crown that was previously used by the former British kings weighed seven pounds, too large for the young Queen’s head.  A new crown was made that was smaller, weighed about 31/2 pounds, and was covered with over 2,100 precious stones such as diamonds, pearls, rubies, sapphires and emeralds.  To prepare for the coronation, the streets of London were festively decorated and soldiers on foot and horseback lined the streets.  On the morning of the coronation, the future Queen Victoria left Buckingham Palace in a Grand State Carriage pulled by eight cream-colored horses.  Westminster Abbey has been the site of every coronation since Edward I in 1274 and every monarch has been crowned sitting in the Chair of St. Edward. (For more information regarding the Coronation regalia, please click on the link Crown Jewels of England – Part One)

Queen Victoria and Prince Albert quickly became engaged after their second meeting in 1839.  They were married on February 10, 1840 in the Chapel Royal at St. James’s Palace in Windsor followed by a wedding breakfast held at Buckingham Palace and a honeymoon at Windsor Castle.  Prince Albert was dressed in a red British Field Marshal’s uniform and proudly wore the Order of the Garter Star on his chest.  Queen Victoria wore a white satin wedding gown trimmed with Honiton lace and orange blossoms.  Instead of wearing a jeweled royal tiara, Victoria choose to wear a wreath of more orange blossoms over a long Honiton lace veil.  At the time, orange blossoms were traditionally worn by brides as a symbol of fertility.  The clothes of a royal wedding tend to be very lavish, but a normal bride would simply have chosen to wear her “best dress”.  It has been said that Queen Victoria started the fashion tradition of wearing a white wedding dress.  (For more information about the wedding of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert, please click on the link British Royal Weddings – Part One and for more information about Queen Victoria’s wedding dress, please click on the link British Royal Wedding Dress – Part One)

1846 Family of Queen Victoria and Prince Albert portrait by

It took a little time after their marriage for Queen Victoria to trust Prince Albert with any government information but eventually he came to be her most trusted political adviser and a very dominant and influential person in her life.  The royal couple had nine children: Princess Royal Victoria in 1840, Prince Albert Edward (known as Bertie, the future King Edward VII) in 1841, Princess Alice in 1843, Prince Alfred in 1844, Princess Helena in 1846, Princess Louise in 1848, Prince Arthur in 1850, Prince Leopold in 1853 and Princess Beatrice in 1857.  Despite the fact that she had so many children, Queen Victoria greatly disliked being pregnant and thought newborn babies were ugly.  Queen Victoria and Prince Albert’s choose wisely and married their children into royal and noble families throughout Europe.  With her nine children, forty-two grandchildren and thirty-seven great grandchildren who are all related throughout the world’s royal families Queen Victoria has been called the “Grandmother of Europe”.

In 1861, Victoria’s mother, the Duchess of Kent died.  The two had been estranged since the time of Victoria’s ascension.  Her mother’s death greatly affected Victoria and she went into a great depression cause by her intense grief. Unable to function, Prince Albert took over most of her duties despite the fact that he was ill with chronic stomach pains. Then, when their son Bertie, the Prince of Wales, became involved in a scandalous relationship with an actress and Prince Albert traveled to Cambridge to confront his son.  Prince Albert had extremely high moral standards and felt his son’s behavior was unacceptable and advised Bertie to remember his royal responsibilities. When Prince Albert returned from his trip he became very ill and was diagnosed with typhoid fever and died shortly after on December 14, 1861.  Queen Victoria was devastated by the death of her beloved husband and felt that Prince Albert’s intense worry over Bertie’s scandalous behavior brought on her husband’s illness and hastened his death.

With the death of Prince Albert, Queen Victoria went into deep mourning and withdrew from her royal duties too distraught to function.  She immediately cancelled all the royal court calendar events and after a period of official mourning never worn anything but black clothing, her widow’s veil and a small diamond crown.  Because of the way she dressed after Prince Albert’s death, Queen Victoria was called the “Widow of Windsor”.  She left London and remained isolated in her other royal residences and divided her time between Windsor Castle, Osborne House and Balmoral Castle in Scotland.  It was at Balmoral Castle that Queen Victoria came to increasingly rely on her personal servant named John Brown.  There have been rumors of a romantic relationship between them and even a possible secret marriage.  Despite these scandalous rumors, John Brown has been credited for coxing Queen Victoria out of her deep mourning and severe depression, causing her to return to her royal duties and a public life.

Unfortunately, more sorrow and death came to Queen Victoria’s life.  In 1871, her son Bertie contracted typhoid, the same disease that killed Prince Albert.  Bertie made a full recovery and his estranged relationship with his mother greatly improved after he was so close to death.  Sadly, in the following years three of Queen Victoria’s children died.  In 1878 Princess Alice died of diphtheria, in 1884 Prince Leopold died from a cerebral hemorrhage and in 1900 Prince Alfred died of throat cancer. Then, in 1883, John Brown’s loyalty to Queen Victoria ultimately cost him his life when he ignored his own health concerns, refusing to take care of himself when he first became ill and instead stubbornly continued to attend to his duties as her servant, he died from pneumonia.

In the remaining years of Queen Victoria’s life and reign as monarch, she eventually returned to a public life after her self-imposed isolation and eventually regained her popularity with the English people as their beloved matriarchal Queen.  In 1887, she celebrated 50 years on the throne with a lavish Golden Jubilee that was celebrated throughout England.  Then, in 1896, Queen Victoria became the longest reigned monarch in British history and she requested that any special celebration be postponed to coincide with her Diamond Jubilee.

In 1900, Queen Victoria continued to observe her annual tradition of celebration of Christmas at Osborne House on the Isle of Wright.  Severe rheumatism in her legs had made her unable to walk and her eyesight was extremely poor due to cataracts.  By the start of the new year and the dawn of a new century, she had become increasingly weak.  Queen Victoria died on January 22, 1901 at the age of 81 years old.  Her funeral took place at St. George’s Chapel at Windsor Castle and she was interred beside her beloved Prince Albert in the Frogmore Mausoleum.

1882 Queen Victoria photograph by Alexander Bassano

Queen Victoria facts and trivia

  • When Victoria was still heir presumptive to the British crown and before she became queen, she was forbidden from walking up or down the stairs by herself without holding onto someone’s hand.  Her over-protective mother had a strict set of rules and was fearful that her daughter would be pushed or tripped down the stairs and killed to make way for another heir.  From birth, Victoria was forced to share a room with her controlling mother and, as a defiant act of independence, one of her first orders after becoming Queen was to have her bed removed from her mother’s room and into another bedroom far away in another part of the palace.
  • When Queen Victoria ascended to the British throne in 1837, it prohibited her from receiving a marriage proposal from a man.  Then in 1839, five days after their second meeting, Queen Victoria quickly fell in love with Prince Albert and wished to marry him but protocol prevented him from asking for her hand and she had to propose to him!
  • There is a legend that all British Royal brides carry a sprig of myrtle that was grown from Queen Victoria’s bridal bouquet.  The origin of the myrtle is false, although it is still a fact that British Royal brides do carry a sprig of myrtle in their bouquets on their wedding day.  The true story is that Prince Albert’s grandmother gave Queen Victoria a posy of myrtle when she visited Germany.  The Queen had the myrtle planted at her home, Osborne House, on the Isle of Wight.  The myrtle plant still grows there today and this is the source of the myrtle that is carried in the British Royal bridal bouquets.
  • Queen Victoria youngest son, Prince Leopold, was affected by the blood-clotting disease hemophilia and two of her daughters, Princesses Alice and Beatrice, were also carriers of this disease.  Several of Queen Victoria’s descendants including her great-grandson, Tsarevich Alexei of Russia, also suffered from this disease.  The presence of the disease in her descendants and not her ancestors led to speculation that the Duke of Kent was not Victoria’s true father since male carriers always suffer from this disease.  There is no documented evidence of a hemophilia connection thru her mother, the Duchess of Kent.  It is likely possible that the hemophilia gene mutated because the Duke of Kent was over 50 at the time of Victoria’s birth and hemophilia frequently accurses in the children of older fathers.
  • Queen Victoria publicly endorsed the 19th century cocaine-based drink Vin Mariani; this drink would later inspired Coca-Cola in the United States.  Vin Mariani was a medicine or tonic created in 1863 by a French chemist named Angelo Mariani.  Originally the drink was made from Bordeaux wine and coca leaves and contained 7.6 mg of cocaine per fluid ounce of wine.  Vin Mariani was very popular during this time and other notable people endorsed the drink.  Thomas Edison claimed that the drink helped him stay awake for long hours and Ulysses S. Grant began drinking it while writing his memoirs.
  • Queen Victoria keep a series of detailed journals throughout her long life writing on an average of 2500 words per day.  After her death, her daughter Princess Beatrice had the daunting task or transcribing and editing the 122 volumes that covered Queen Victoria’s life from the time of her ascension to her death.  Unfortunately, Queen Victoria’s personal and intimate history, private feelings and observations that were written by her own hand were lost when Princess Beatrice burned the original journals.
  • Several years prior to her death, Queen Victoria had written very specific instructions regarding her death and funeral.  Her son and successor, King Edward VII gently put her into her coffin and she was dressed in a white dress and her wedding veil.  Within the coffin were several mementos: on her right side was an article of Price Albert’s clothing and a plaster cast of his hand, on her left side were a lock of John Brown’s hair and a small photo of him wrapped in a handkerchief and place in her left hand and concealed by a carefully placed bouquet of flowers.